When I was pregnant with my first, I had a plan. I planned to return to work by twelve months. Probably much like most people. But once he was here, there was no way I could do that. Aside from him being a “difficult” baby with lots of allergies and sleep issues, I just couldnt. I realised I had waited 31 years for this. My whole life had bought me to this moment and once it was gone, once he was grown, I could never get this time back. I wanted to be there for his first steps, first words. And even moreso I wanted to be there for his last… the last time he needs a bib, the last time he wears a nappy. Because those moments, those milestones are bittersweet. Our babies grow way way faster than we wish they would. Every moment is gone before you notice. How could I possibly give those up to someone else?
So we had to sit down, work out HOW. How could we live on one income? My husband doesn’t make the big bucks. He is a regular tradie. We decided that the sacrifice was worth every cent. We go without a lot of luxuries to enable one of us to stay at home and raise our babies rather than paying someone else to live those moments. It’s certainly not easy. Sometimes its downright HARD. But to realise that where there is a will, there is a way and I honestly believe that we do this because it is what is best for our family. I certainly would never criticise someone doing it differently. I take my hat off to working parents. I don’t know how you do it. You have an incredible energy and I applaud you for that.
When I told people I wasnt going back to work, at least until the kids were older. I had very mixed responses. Mostly I heard “Oh em gee you are CRAZY”…
That Crazy Idea… to go without so I could stay home and raise my own kids?